关于农村妻跑族现象的思考(农村媳妇跑了什么原因)

听到村里结婚不满一年的小两口离婚的消息，农村群众挠挠头，咋想也想不通，家里装了大电视机、空调，甚至洗衣机，也不用你自己洗衣服，生活负担明显减轻，这媳妇怎么一年跑得比一年多？农村咋就留不住人了呢？其实，原因有以下三

一、城市化进程加快，人口流动随之加快

在中国改革开放后，城市发展迅速，大量的农村青年为了生计涌入城市中，车水马龙、灯红酒绿的繁华城市让农村人视野扩宽，见识到不同的生活习俗，同时生活习惯发生改变，接受新兴的思想。一对夫妻为了赚钱可能会分居两地，距离、时间、思想上的改变，产生各自的社交圈，在一起见面也没有共同话题，离婚也成了大势所趋。

二、女性意识崛起，摆脱在家相夫教子的传统

21世纪农村的物质条件不断改善，教育普及提高，农村人也不是大字不识一个的乡巴佬了，在温饱不愁的日子里，人们想得更多是如何提高自己的知识水平，追求更高的生活质量。有些农村人思想上仍旧处于落后状态，男性用暴力手段控制妻子，觉得这是我老婆，我不打谁打？但是相较于传统的家庭环境，现代女性们不愿意向自己的母辈一样，为夫是命，唯唯诺诺，失去自我，对于不幸福的婚姻她们会勇敢的说不，努力保障自己的权益。

三、固定死板的婚恋观埋藏隐患

以往在农村，女性多看重男性是否老实，男性多看重女性是否贤惠，忽略最重要的感情因素，只要二者契合一段婚姻便形成了。另外“父母之命媒妁之言”，农村的年轻人们盲目听从父母的要求，匆忙结婚逃避压力，但俗话说，鞋子要自己穿才知道合不合适。在感情薄弱的基础上，一旦有任何鸡毛蒜皮的小事都会闹得不可开交，女性及时清醒，摆脱错误的婚姻，抽身离开。

在传统观念中，农村绝大多数人不会轻易离婚，这是一件会成为街坊邻居的饭后谈资的事情。但是社会的车轮不断前进，个人的力量无法阻挡。在这个多元化的社会环境中，有着觉醒意识的女性们更看重自己在婚姻中的独立地位，而不是一提及就是某某家的老婆，思想上的解放、经济上的宽裕，女性可以独立生存是她们离婚的资本。

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Hearing the news of the divorce of the young couple who had been married for less than a year in the village, the rural people scratched their heads and couldn't imagine how to get through it. They installed a large TV set, air conditioner and even a washing machine in their home, and did not wash their clothes by themselves. The living burden was significantly reduced. How can the countryside not keep people? In fact, there are three reasons.

First, the urbanization process is accelerating, and the population flow is accelerating

After China's reform and opening up, cities developed rapidly, and a large number of rural youth flocked to cities for their livelihood. The bustling cities with heavy traffic and bright lights broaden the vision of rural people, allowing them to see different life customs. At the same time, their living habits changed and they accepted new ideas. In order to make money, a couple may live apart. Distance, time, and changes in thinking create their own social circles. When they meet together, they have no common topics to discuss.

Second, the rise of female consciousness, getting rid of the tradition of taking care of husband and children at home

In the 21st century, the material conditions in rural areas are constantly improving, and the popularization of education is improving. Rural people are no longer a country bumpkin who does not know a single character. In the days of food and clothing, people think more about how to improve their knowledge level and pursue a higher quality of life. Some rural people are still in a backward state of mind. Men use violent means to control their wives. They think this is my wife. However, compared with the traditional family environment, modern women are not willing to be like their mothers, who are obedient to their husbands and lose themselves. They will bravely say no to an unhappy marriage and strive to protect their own rights and interests.

Third, fixed and rigid view of love and marriage buried hidden dangers

In the past, in rural areas, women pay more attention to the honesty of men, men pay more attention to the virtue of women, ignoring the most important emotional factors, as long as the two fit a marriage will be formed. In addition, "their parents' orders are arranged by the matchmaker". In the countryside, young people blindly follow their parents' demands and get married in a hurry to escape the pressure. But as the saying goes, the shoes don't fit until you wear them. On the basis of weak feelings, once there are any trivial matters will make a bee, women timely sober up, get rid of the wrong marriage, get away.

In the traditional view, the vast majority of people in the countryside will not easily divorce, this is a thing that will become the after-dinner talk of the neighbors. But the wheels of society move forward, and individual power cannot be held back. In this diversified social environment, women with awakening consciousness pay more attention to their independent status in marriage, rather than mentioning the wife of a certain family. Ideological liberation, economic wealth, and women's ability to survive independently are the capital of their divorce.

1、欲望太多。

现在一部分小年轻人（有男有女），想过上人上人的生活，吃好的、穿贵的、日常还能天天可以娱乐场所；可又不想踏实工作，既想来钱快又不想太辛苦，于是就丢了自尊、没有了脸面去做一下令人不耻的事情。

之前遇到一个收停车费的大爷，他给我说原来收费的那条街，每到夜里8点后，那些大排排的站街女，一个比一个穿得少，那些年轻女子几乎都是他们村的，一个个抛夫弃子（女），就为了挣那些见不得人的脏钱。他觉得天天看见难为情，于是就换了一条街收费。

2、女人看不到希望。

部分是因为男人对自己不好、活者男人不成器。

娃她小叔，以前啃老，后来我二叔去逝，他不但不出去打工赚钱给妻子和孩子用，还把我二叔留下的钱拿去打麻将，有一次，3天输了10000元，把他媳妇气得收拾东西跑回娘家，说是日子没法过了。

还有我老家一个孙子辈的男孩，他家里贫困，好不容易打工时有一个女孩看上他，跟他回老家结了婚。第二年还生了一个男孩，这时他确整天沉迷于游戏，他老父亲给他们赚奶粉钱。加上女孩生孩子和坐月子期间他不关心她，孩子出月子后，女的就扔下孩子跑了。